BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor (1990)

The Peter Bowes Consultancy

After over 30 years counselling, I have no doubt that the most important part of counselling that can lead to change, healing, a return to coping, or even a transformation in a way of living and thinking bout oneself, is the relationship you form with your counsellor.

I know now that I tend to think in what is called psychodynamic terms and place a great deal of my focus on how we come to be the persons and personalities we are. I think it is inescapable that we learn this when we see ourselves echoed in the faces of the first adults in our lives or when we experience the agony of not being echoed in their eyes. I have come to believe that we are not fully human except in relationship to other human beings. Counselling is a special kind of that relating and it can be both reparative and aid our further development.

The counselling or therapeutic relationship is essential then and the way I think of that space between us is that it gradually builds a mirror in which you get to see yourself more clearly or at least to see what has occurred that shapes who you are. The idea here is that if you see something in this way you may be able to do something about it - I cannot do it for you, of course! And yet, I still think that the special kind of relationship that counselling creates, does itself bring about change.

So, making an appointment for a face to face exploration could be the most important step you take. If you do this, then you will get a good idea as to whether the helper is the right one for you. Of course, I will also get an idea as to whether what I have to offer matches what you perceive are your needs.

Most sessions last up to 60 minutes and agreements tend to be made for up to six sessions before a review is made to see if both persons feel that there is value in continuing work together. But make no mistake, it is work!

Here, more formally, are the ways I practise most of the time:

For short term counselling with presentations of stress and need anger management:

  • Cognitive Behaviour Therapy or REBT - Rational Emotional Behavioural Therapy

For presentations focused on past trauma such as accidents or assault:

  • EMDR
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Post trauma counselling and critical incident debriefing

For presentations that lead to abuse in childhood:

  • Psychodynamic counselling
  • EMDR

For presentations featuring depression and anxiety and grief:

  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Psychodynamic counselling
  • Person Centred counselling

For presentations concerned with self worth and personality:

  • Psychodynamic counselling

For relationship difficulties with couples:

  • Counselling focusing upon the relationship of the couple

I tend not to work with those below the age of thirteen or and will usually refer on to a specialist those whose presentation is primarily about alcohol or drug addiction

I am registered with SurvivorsUK a resource for male survivors of abuse
I am an Accredited Sexual Minority Therapist (Pink Therapy)
I am a member of EMDR UK and Ireland Association
I am a Senior Accredited Counsellor and Supervisor with BACP

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